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If you all have, like, half hour free?

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Post by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds » Fri Jul 15, 2016 12:11 am

I invite you to read this person's experiences.

https://medium.com/@jencoates/i-am-a-tr ... .motas14vp
[Language warning.]

It's long, but man, is it intense and important, too.
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Post by I REALLY HATE POKEMON! » Fri Jul 15, 2016 12:13 am

You're not kidding, that is long. Read the top part a bit and plan to skim it later.

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Post by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds » Fri Jul 15, 2016 12:32 am

[QUOTE="I REALLY HATE POKEMON!, post: 1601924, member: 18119"]You're not kidding, that is long. Read the top part a bit and plan to skim it later.[/QUOTE]
I think you'll probably agree with a great number of their points. It's worth dedicating the time to. *nod*
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Post by I REALLY HATE POKEMON! » Fri Jul 15, 2016 12:34 am

I already agreed with one from the very top. Living in hiding is no way to live, certainly.

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Post by Random User » Fri Jul 15, 2016 1:28 am

I think this article has managed to help me really understand the idea behind gender identities on a much deeper level than I had previously, though it doesn't change my really cynical views on the whole thing. It was a really depressing read, and some of the comments at the bottom only make it more depressing, but I'm glad the author wrote this. Thanks for sharing this, SD!

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Post by CaptHayfever » Fri Jul 15, 2016 8:41 am

Excellent read. Interesting perspective.
Only took a half-hour 'cause I got sucked into the comments, though. :p ;)

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Post by Marilink » Fri Jul 15, 2016 9:25 am

These two points I found to be the most salient:
Because I am interested in complicating your definition of maleness and of boyhood.
It makes it awfully easy to insulate the (largely cis-)female perspective on what males are.
They get at the heart of something that I believe needs to be explored more, which is differentiation within the genders themselves.
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Post by smol Kat » Fri Jul 15, 2016 3:03 pm

I just want to say that this attitude the speaker experienced:
Until I am told by one of them, angrily, that I am not really allowed to talk about femininity because I am a straight cis boy.
is a huge, huge problem. The anger, the vitriol from this woman is just not something I think is okay. The attitude the speaker experienced in a gender studies class was not acceptable.

And actually I think a lot of the toxic BS from all demographics could be reduced if not eliminated if:
What she is really furious about is being contradicted by someone who, according to their facebook profile, has a lower ranking on the intersectional discourse chart than she.
...we stopped thinking of intersectionality in vertical levels. There are so many different ways to be marginalized that it just doesn't make sense.

All in all, this was a great read and I'd like to encourage all of you to take a look.
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Post by Apollo the Just » Mon Jul 25, 2016 6:06 pm

This is such an important read. It really illustrates how you don't, ever ever, know what a person's experiences have been, and you never, ever ever, have the right to dismiss someone because you think you know who they are.
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